paintbrush-cup asked: Why is it that trouser shopping is so upsetting? I've noticed it myself, and as at the moment I am in dire need of new jeans (thigh holes are the bane of my life) I am dreading going and looking for a new pair - but yeah, what is it about them which is so upsetting - I like getting all other forms of clothing, even if the the stuff I like doesn't fit it doesn't get me down quite so much as trying on pair after pair of jeans that are a bit too tight or ride down my butt too far for my liking...
a note to this: some tailors will patch the thigh holes with leather. It looks badass and lasts way longer than patching with denim. It’s a sweet way to make your jeans last longer and avoid the dreaded denim shop.
I have to go to acting class in drag tomorrow because we are exploring gender and the other night I dressed in my roommate’s dandy wardrobe. Felt good, I’ll tell ya that much. But alas, there were no pants that fit to be found.
I stopped buying pants a year and a half ago and it was the best thing I ever did for my self-esteem. I remember Jessica Luxery-Legay telling me that she had consciously stopped buying pants, and the relief and freedom that came from that decision was revolutionary. I felt it too, folks - and I recommend it for any of you skirty fat fellows out there who hate the misogyny and body control inherent in the production of plus-sized clothing.
I digress. Today I went shopping for a pair of trousers to complete my charming look for tomorrow and it was the most emotionally brutal shopping experience I’ve had in years. Standing in that mirror, all of my teenage horrors of self-hatred and body dysphoria came flooding back and I was in tears within two pairs of pants.
The anger and frustration I felt was challenging - and I had to go get a meatball sandwich and fries after to eat my feelings - but ultimately useful. It reminded me that this experience is rare these days. As I approach 30, I almost never actively participate in the hating of my body. Not to say things are perfect, but I practice love and gentleness, and non-judgement as much as possible, and it has changed my life. I’m grateful for that.
Here’s a big FUCK YEAH to loving my body and all the work it does in keeping me alive.
We are Ashley and Sarah. We need a roommate. Like, STAT. For Oct. 1st, 15th, or Nov. 1st. ORRR NOWWWWWW…
$650 + $10-15 for the world wide web at your fingie tips, and a $324 damage deposit
Large-ish bedroom in a three-bedroom suite on the main floor of a character house at 1st and Victoria.
House features two tiny baby kitty creatures, 2 decks, in-suite coin laundry, original hardwood floors and (non-working) beautiful stone fireplace in living room, large bright kitchen. One block from Commercial drive.
2 homotime gaylord type, creative, magic-liking, HILARIOUS PEOPLE into creating a nurturing, warm, fun and calm home space. You will literally never find anything better than this for the rest of your life.
The house is up ten steps at the front and back of the suite.
If this appeals to you or someone you know and trust please contact Ashley or Sarah as soon as possible. Like, YESTERDAY. Please and Thank you. Much Obliged. Please come live with us. Please.
K Love you Bye.
K no you hang up.